I’m really surprised that I decided to listen to Prince Harry as he narrated his own autobiography, “Spare.” That decision appears to be the result of my wife’s decision to binge through the TV drama “Suits.” I had never watched it, and as she was choosing to watch the show, night after night through 8 seasons, I got hooked too. Megan Markle, who is married to the Prince is one of the principal actors in the show. So, I’ve wandered as about as far from our murder mystery genre as possible – no murders in this book, although Megan, The Duchess of Sussex, certainly had thoughts of her own death in response to the pressures she was facing.
I thought the book was worth reading. Harry described that as the second son of Princess Diana and King Charles, he was the “spare” part of Prince William, the first born, who was the “heir.” Harry grew up with the understanding that he was very unlikely to ever assume the thrown. William or Willy, had obligations that Harry did not. This was a book of palace intrigue, and it seems Harry did not hold back in telling about the intrigue. He talked about the awkwardness of being a royal family member and the expectations for how he was supposed to behave. Harry was a party boy during his youth and into his late 20s, and the English press was brutal in terms of using “paps” or paparazzi free lance photographers to hound him as they had hounded his mother, and then sell their photos for sensational, often entirely made up stories.
Harry reviewed his life in school, the loss of his mother, Diana, in 1997 when Harry was just 12 years old. He certainly struggled with his grief over the ensuring years. He said little about his decision not to go to college, although he did become a military captain who flew Apache helicopters. Harry had two tours in Afghanistan, the first of which was abbreviated due to the intense efforts of the Taliban to assassinate him. He claimed to have been responsible for 25 kills in the course of his military duties. He also talked about his love and respect for his grandmother, the Queen.
The Prince talked about wanting to find the right woman to marry and have children. In the midst of some wild times with his buddies, he had a couple longer relationships that did not work out. It was when he was traveling that he met Megan Markle, and he very quickly fell for her. This was an American actress who knew little of the life of a royal. The experience of the two of them dealing with the “paps” was awful and it’s hard to imagine the hardships of being in such a fishbowl. Despite the constant negative press, perhaps they would have stayed in London had it not been for their perceived abandonment by the royal family. But with Harry’s and Megan’s perception of being mistreated by their own family, much as Diana had not been sufficiently supported during her marriage to Charles, they chose to opt of their royal duties and move back to Southern California where Megan had grown up.
Although there were times when Harry sounded a bit petty, for the most part I found him to be an articulate man who did not pull punches. This was a candid portrayal of his life and his struggles, and it gets my recommendation.